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The Two Sides of Gratitude

The Two Sides of Gratitude

We often hear to be grateful and to state our gratitude by saying thank you. In my contemplation this morning, I heard to add something to that statement of gratitude that will help me be more mindful and will show me another side to gratitude.

When I feel gratitude for something, add a statement that acknowledges and identifies what I am receiving and then add that I am grateful for it. For instance, “I receive the love of my friends through their invitation to Thanksgiving dinner and I am grateful,” or “I receive the light-up stocking caps and the care from my friends and I am grateful.” The idea is to recognize what I am receiving before simply saying thank you.

By stating that I am receiving something, it helps me be more mindful and shows how abundantly I am loved by friends, family, the Universe. It’s easy to say I’m grateful for this or that, but when I state that I am receiving something, it amplifies the gratitude. And I’m not saying I’ll do this out in public (but who knows) but rather make it a personal practice. 

Stating that I receive something opens me to receive it on a deeper level and therefore deepens my gratitude.

“I receive electricity because someone is monitoring its production so families are warm…and I am grateful.”

“I receive a phone call from my daughter because she cares about me…and I am grateful.”

“I receive a hug from my hound because he loves me…and I am grateful.”

“I receive an order for my books because my friend loves me and supports my work…and I am grateful.”

“I receive the beauty of these mountains…and I am grateful.”

“I receive the beauty of the stars…and I am grateful.”

“I receive the bounty of the Universe…and I am grateful.”

Recognizing and naming what I am receiving helps me see…opens me…expands my awareness of the bounty of my life. I receive this bounty and I am deeply grateful.

The Door is Open

The Door is Open

My hound often sits outside the pet door and barks to come inside….when the door has the solid panel removed. I’ll say, “Come on Vernon, the door is open!” And after a few minutes of thought, or something akin to thought, he comes through and climbs into his purple leather recliner. 

This morning, one of my cats did Vernon’s version of ‘the door is locked and I can’t get in.’ So I told her, “The door is open!” And she came inside.

This was an unusual behavior as Tawanda is super-smart (not saying Vernon isn’t super-smart…his nose is beyond intelligent). Any time something unusual happens, I stop and pay attention. Especially after the contemplation I had this morning.

I kept hearing: The door is open. Walk through! So I wrote it down and put the paper beside my computer. As I begin the work day, the paper kept staring at me and I remembered a story I shared at a book event this weekend.

I was hiking with a friend up Alum Cave trail to LeConte Lodge. There is a point where the trail flattens out after nearly five miles of climbing. The higher altitude forest opens up and it’s pure magic. Thick carpets of green moss, the smell of balsam fir, beautiful spruce and fir trees create a wonderland of beauty. On our way back from the lodge, I stopped and pulled out a flute and stood in the forest and said… ‘this is for you…thank you.’ 

As I played the melody, I felt my heart open and then a rush of energy move through me that brought me to tears. There was such connection with the forest. I felt it on a cellular level. 

As we hiked down, I contemplated the experience and realized the only thing keeping us from being in such profound harmony with life is ourselves. The forest is always there…open, strong, beautiful. We simply have to open our hearts to feel that Oneness.

In the book event with my friend and writer, Thomas Rain Crowe, I described the forest and flute moment and how I realized that the only thing keeping us from experiencing Oneness was ourselves. And the ‘fix’ is to open our hearts. 

To be in Oneness, to feel love and connection, we simply have to open ourselves. We’ve spent years building walls of protection and it was smart to do that when we were kids and trying to grow up and find our way. But as adults, those walls keep us from connecting. We can become addicted to adding to and stabilizing those walls, reinforcing them, to keep ourselves safe. But then, our world becomes smaller and scarier because we’re repeating our fears over and over. The way out of that fear cycle is to find ways to open again. For me, it’s with animals and forests…rivers, the night sky. When I dare to open my heart and listen to the forest, the rivers, wild animals and my own four-legged kiddos, I find I hear again and again, “The Door is open! Walk through!”

Misery is found in our self-created prison. 

We sit inside the cell and carve days into walls of stone

As the rusted, open door of iron bars silently waits.

A beam of light illuminates the opening

And we marvel at the beauty of it sparkling 

In the dungeon of our shadows.

It whispers, The Door is open. Walk through.

By the magic of grace, we walk through the open door

Of our heart and know freedom.

The Door is open. Walk through!